January 22, 2010

ANGRY AT MY ANGER

There are countless dating books that give advice on what women want, and what men want. It seems to me that it’s all crap, and a waste of money.

If you want to know what a woman wants, just ask her. A woman worth her salt (where the fuck does that saying come from, anyway?) will tell you what she wants. Dumb-ass bitches who play games won’t tell you and they’ll expect you to read their mind and automatically “know” what they want.

I know. I’ve been there before. But now I realize that no one is a mind-reader. Communication is the beautiful key to intimacy and growth as a couple. All we have to do is open the fuck up, stop being afraid, and talk. Risk. Little by little.

But the “stop being afraid” part is not so easily done. I fear many things—anger from others, most of all.

How do we stop being afraid of something? Well if it was fear of a spider, I suppose that I’d recommend slowly introducing friendly spiders back into the individual’s environment—perhaps first in a controlled environment.

Ok. Right. So…apply that logic to fear of uncontrollable rage? So put myself in “friendly” and safe anger environments? Also, it would probably help for me to get a grip on my own anger—I fear expressing it would lead to bursts of uncontrollable rage and it feels like that is what happens each time I express anger.

How can I express anger in a healthy way?

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